gratefulfillment challenge

continuous waves
waves continue no matter what

life like the ocean continues its movement, never stopping the cyclical pattern


As people present in this time of history around the world, we are facing new challenges in medical, social, and political forays. This is a time to try out new brain cells, reach for alternative emotional responses, and engage in evolved actions rather than fall back into primal patterns in nature. What I see right now is a road that leads to evolution, where we evolve as human beings to a higher communal place, or devolution, where humanity devolves into an animal nature where the soul and brain connection is misfiring at a rate that may destroy itself in the process.

Let’s put a positive note on this. Humanity has much more hope and potential for change than any other living beings on the planet. And, contrasting crises happening all at once bring forth scientific expansion in breakthroughs such as vaccines and treatments. These solutions the best of us come up with will prevent and/or keep humans alive through the worst part of diseases.

Not only that, but the enthusiasm for space exploration has also played out in successful reach by NASA and private companies like SpaceX transporting humans to work and to possibly live and even to escape to places beyond earth as we use up this planet of natural resources and do overall damage to one another & to the land around and between us. Will we learn that expansion can occur in a way that helps and benefits all, even as our life expectancy increases due to knowledge, experimentation as a necessity? I hope so.

Presence – stay in today, it’s better that way

blue skies, nothing but blue skies

The one day we have is today. I follow the ODAT or One Day at a Time principle. If there is something that is not working out at the moment, whether it is in my control or not, I can deal with some part of it in the short term or in the next 24 hours. What I can act on today I will, what I can’t do today I’ll plan when I can. Today, I can move in the direction of acceptance, and what I can change about the perspective I have, I can do immediately.

Just for today, I will try to live through this day only, and not take my whole life problem [or the world’s] at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt I had to keep it up for a lifetime.

quote from Just For Today – The Blue Book

So one day at a time builds into a lifetime of days between birth and death, the full circle of life. It is in the moment though, that we express our true selves, sometimes gaining, sometimes losing in the extremes and routines of life circumstances. Today, I will love. Today, I will survive. Today, I will thrive. Just for today, since tomorrow carries its own troubles and promise, yesterday, its own regrets and memories. All have a part, all make me who I am today: grateful and content. Today, that is my prayer for you as well. Best, Mary

What gratitude?

The newest member of our neighborhood was born overnight – bringing a brand new vision of the world into view. And as I look at this day, cautiously optimistic, I realize the newest ones have the optimism that will move humanity beyond what limitations there are right now.

middle aged couple
looking at life from the middle lane
  • grateful today for the birth of my neighbor’s healthy new little girl
  • grateful today for extended family who has more sense than I do
  • grateful today for my mom who is healthy just for today
  • grateful today for my family participating fully in our back n forth real-life banter
  • grateful today for what I miss, what I notice, what I misconstrue – and learn from
dog on deck
it’s a fine life!

A new week, a new look at gratitude

A number of weeks into a new world with virus leading the way to healthier habits, there is a list of 5 things to be grateful for that I’ve come up with today:

Appreciating the stars that light the night sky.

Grateful for being able to avoid wear and tear of shoes as they are most often off my feet.

I am truly grateful for my husband’s enthusiasm to get out of the house while I stay in the house.

The grocery shopping is gracefully taken care of by my husband, whose almost daily outings include a visit to market, to market-with mask, gloves, and wipes for protection.

Family interactions are challenging, loving, emotionally charged, and tender, all in the life of a day and a “day in the life” of me.

gratitude – be here now

The celebrated introspective captivating author from the sixties, Ram Das, who created a book from visions, Be Here Now, passed away early 2020. Time seems to stand still more often now in these tumultuous times. Grateful for the times we have lived through; the sixties were a time of enlightenment. To be present in the moment is one of the gifts of having a pet like a dog who just loves to be with you in the moment, whether walking, playing or sleeping. The beauty and freedom of being in the moment is one of the happiest places for a human to be. It takes some doing for me, a reminder that all is temporary and that all is well.

What Next To Be Grateful for?

The continuing sage of history spreads a blanket of sadness on our present predicament. Mother Earth has regurgitated a virus to get the attention of those who would destroy her first, as environmental changes have had devastating consequences to our physical world. The occupants of earth will create a way to survive, all of them, even viruses. Humankind will become better from a distance, for this, but meanwhile, surprises in grief & suffering surmount the observer who can’t be unaffected by this.

Continuing on, staying close to those you love, even if at physical distance, is an opportunity for stretching humanity. The outrage and horror can be misdirected to blame and flail powerlessly at what I cannot control. And then, a voice on the phone calms me, a family member jolts me into the present moment, and all is well.

Find calm in the chaos. Don’t let the chaos distract from the calm within, I’ve been reminded it’s in there, buried under disguises of anxiety, fear, grief, anger, rage. When those disguises become me, the words that pour out are me too. Released now, all the words can come. I wish the same for you. Be well, be safe, be true, be whole.


Gratefulfillment – being grateful leads to fulfillment, every time.  Even in the most trying times, the gratitude list for me grounds me.  Just writing down 5 particular things that day to be grateful for, I lift my spirits, no matter where they fall on the emotional scale.  Fulfillment without gratitude may be a fleeting thing, with gratitude, I am fulfilled.


fulfillment anywhere